Did you join me at The Mom Conference? Did you love it as much as I did, write pages of notes and get extra motivated? Well, if you missed it I’ve got a summary here of the big take-away I gained from the conference (and a couple of chances to view, or review, the conference yourself. So read on! But first me big take-away – Be Intentional About Me Time!
During The Mom Conference there were six or seven video interviews to watch each day for three days. I usually managed to watch three each day, and though the topics were varied the same message kept coming through to me – Be Intentional About Me Time. I’ve gone through my notes and highlighted a number of points, quotes and advice which I’m going to share with you now. I hope you find it as helpful and inspiring as I do.
The first interview I watched was with Joanne Miller and Ashley Logsdon from mamasaysnamaste.com entitled ‘Keeping your Identity as a Person’. I loved what they had to say about the importance of focusing on your own interests and ‘voice’ and how valuable this is not only to you but to your whole family. We need to block in time for playing with our children and also doing our own play. We can teach our children to respect that we need time to ourselves. I know that self-care is important for my own well-being, which in turn helps me to be a better mum, but I had not considered that taking time for my own interests is also a great example to my children.
You don’t want to raise a child that only serves others and doesn’t know who she is. Be an example to your children, especially daughters, of living your own life.
I then listened to Erin Odon from thehumbledhomemaker.com talk about the importance of mums taking a Personal Retreat. She said that it is important to take time out (like a weekend away from the family) to focus on our goals, mission and vision. She also mentioned that this self-care not only helps us to be better mums, but is a good example to our children.
We get stuck in the daily schedule but don’t take time for the bigger picture and think ‘why’.
This message came through again in the session with Eric and April Perry from LearnDoBecome.com on Life Architecture. April’s comment that we ‘jump into being a mum but don’t have anything to tell us we are doing a good job’ really struck a chord with me. I loved this quote, which really seemed to drive home the message I have been getting throughout the conference:
Remember who you are and what you are passionate about and do a little bit of that now and let it grow while the children grow…Investing and developing yourself in the midst of your motherhood is a great influence on your children.
And THEN I listened to Kelly Jensen’s ‘How to Live life Intentionally and Teach your Kids to do the same’, and boy did that inspire me! Again, she emphasized the importance of being intentional about having fun with the family and having your own interests. She does this through having a ‘Live List’ for herself and her family. The ‘Live List’ is a bit like a bucket list but focuses on things we can do to make our world a better place, both for ourselves and others. By sharing our own interests with our children we create a family culture that is not all ‘me, me’.
Don’t forget who you are and what you love. A personal Live List helps you to remember these things… It is important for our children to see their mum has other things going on in life, and just like her they can too. They can have their own likes now, and when they are a mum. This is a great example to our kids.
One final point that I noted from Kelly was the need for children to be able to cheer us on. We need to give our children the opportunity to support us in things we find difficult (the example she gave was running a half-marathon) as children love to support and encourage us. The want to make a difference to us. This point really touched me – but I don’t think I’ll be running any half-marathons any time soon!
You can find Kelly Jensen on instagram or search for #jensenfamilylivelist
And now for your chances to catch up with The Mom Conference! There will be an encore screening of favourites from the conference on Tuesday 18th October (that’s Wednesday NZ time) so you still have a chance to register!
But wait there’s more!! You also have the opportunity to purchase packs containing the interviews PLUS action guides and a whole heap of bonus resources from the speakers, so don’t forget to check that out once you have registered. I’ve already purchased mine when I saw all those great bonuses. The special pricing for these packages ends on Wednesday so get in quick! As an affiliate for this conference Mummy Do It will also benefit from your purchases.
So now I need to start taking action steps on what I have learned!
I’d love to hear about your highlights if you attended the conference.